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Do you know how to find your true love? Are you a romantic at heart and believe in true love? How will you know when you’ve found your true love? Most people are searching for that one person who will complete them and make them feel complete-their one true love. If you are one of these people and feel as though you’ve been searching for a long time without any success, then read on to find out how you can find your true love.
• Put yourself out there
Unfortunately, there is a good chance that your true love is not going to just show up at your door, flowers in hand. It probably happened, once, but it’s more than likely not going to happen again. You have to put yourself out there and meet people. If you don’t know where to go, then there are several options available.
To start with, some people have had good luck on the internet, believe it or not. Dating websites have soared in popularity and at the very least you should be able to find someone who has things in common with you.
If that’s not your thing, then try going to social events that cater to large numbers of people, like bars, dance clubs, and parties. The next time you get an invitation to party then you should go, even if you don’t know that many people there.
By putting yourself out there, you’re not only meeting a lot of different people, but you’re also getting yourself used to talking to people that you don’t know. This creates self-confidence, which can only bring good things.
• Your love is for you
Your true love is for you to decide on, not for anyone else. You should take a long look inside of you to determine the qualities that you are searching for and what you think would be a good match for you. It’s not something that your Aunt Martha or your best friend Katie thinks should be right for you.
If you’re a list-making person, it might even help you to make a list of the qualities that you are looking for. Knowing what you are looking for is half of the battle.
• Don’t settle
Once you know what you’re looking for, don’t settle. If there are some traits that are very important to you, like finding someone who loves children, then compromising might lead to heartache on down the line and you don’t want that.
Likewise, don’t settle for something that doesn’t feel right. Oftentimes in the search for true love, we get discouraged. When this happens, we sometimes end up dating people that aren’t right for us because we think that we will never find someone who truly is. Just remember that you’re worth more than that and that you deserve to be happy.
• Don’t give up
If you give up too soon, you’ll never find your own true love. Don’t let past mistakes or relationships bring you down. Instead, think of them as learning experiences and try to take something positive from them. Enjoy the little things in your life now so that when you find your true love, you’ll be ready for them.
Imagine what if you could make any man adore you, chase you, love you, and commit to you!
This article is contributed by Tina Jones. Tina is part of the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women who want to understand male psychology, how to attract men, and find true love.
“What should I say to her?” is the most common question I get from clients. One option is to memorize a bunch of pickup lines or routines. The problem is no matter how well you do it she will notice when you shift from your memorized material to natural conversation. Starting a conversation naturally takes a little bit more practice and an understanding of the social situation, but it will be more effective for you in the long run.
There are two types of situations you should be aware of before starting a conversation, implied social situations and public situations. In implied social situations such as a crowded bar, a party, or other group gatherings you don’t need an opener. People are there to be social and they are aware of the possibility of someone new coming to talk to them. If women weren’t at least open to the possibility of meeting and being approached by someone new they would go to somewhere quieter with less people. In these situations simply approach with a warm confident vibe and introduce yourself. After that ask an open ended question and relate to what she says or answer your own question to keep the conversation going.
In public situations people are in their own heads. Having a stranger talk to them is not that uncommon, however most people avoid those with an agenda. There are lots of people who might talk to you in public. Solicitors, panhandlers, volunteer activists, lost tourists, and even someone asking the time. We avoid conversation with people that have strong agendas like someone trying to sell you something. However it is normal if a casual conversation with a stranger occurs spontaneously. Going up to introduce yourself here would not work because of the obvious agenda to hit on her. This is where a focus opener or a presumption would be used. On a side note for ladies, you can use a focus opener or presumption to start a conversation with a guy in both situations and you won’t come off being too forward.
The idea behind a focus opener is to start a conversation in a way that is casual and doesn’t have an apparent agenda. Conversations spring up between strangers in public all the time, it is usually started with a question or a comment about the situation at hand. The secret to coming up with a good conversation starter is to understand what the other person is focused on and then ask them an open-ended question about it.
Focus: Finding a book Focus
Opener: “You look like a well read person, what’s a good book you could recommend?”
Situation: Cooking Store
Focus: Thinking about cooking and cookware
Focus Opener: “What’s on your list of must have cookware?
Situation: Coffee Shop Line
Focus: Thinking about what to order
Focus Opener: “I think it is time for me to try something different, what are you ordering?”
Situation: Art Gallery
Focus: Thinking about a particular painting
Focus Opener: “What’s your take on this one?”
This is one of my favorite openers because it is a casual opener that jumps you right into a personal conversation. With a focus opener you have to transition from a platonic conversation about whatever you started with to a more personal conversation about who she is.
A presumption is an open-ended question that presumes something about her.
Focus: Looking at classic literature
Presumption: She is in university
Opener: “What University do you go to?”
Situation: Art supplies store
Focus: Buying art supplies
Presumption: She is an artist
Opener: “Where is your gallery?”
Situation: History Museum
Focus: Looking intently at an exhibit on military history
Presumption: She is in the military (Obviously false to be funny)
Opener: “What war did you serve in?”
Presumptions have a really powerful ability to get you into conversation whether the presumption is correct or not. In fact it is often better to have a wrong presumption. Either you can make it humorous like the last example or they will feel like they have to correct you and explain. In general people don’t want someone to have an incorrect notion about them and will feel compelled to correct it. For us that is a good thing because whoever we are trying to engage in conversation will say more for us to relate to. The conversation almost starts itself if they are telling me, “I actually don’t have a gallery. I’ve just been painting since high school because I enjoy it.”
The most important thing about starting a new conversation is to ask open-ended questions and answer the question yourself if you get a very short response. If you ask closed ended questions like “Is that a good book?” She may just say “I don’t know”, hand you the book, and walk away. If you do ask a good question and get a very short answer then answer your own question and go back to her with a smaller question.
Me: You look like a well read person, what’s a good book you could recommend?
Her: I don’t know…
Me: Well I’ll give you my quick recommendation then. One of my personal favorites is Life of Pi. I just loved picturing myself in the lifeboat with the tiger imagining if I could outwit him each day just like the main character did. So what is one good book you’ve read recently?
Her: Well the one I read recently was…….
Approaching and starting a conversation with woman can be very nerve-wracking. You will never know exactly what to say in every situation. Remember it is often not about what you say, but how you handle yourself if you say the wrong thing. Just keep going confidently and don’t let it get to you if you stumble over your words. Use the techniques we went over and you will be starting conversations with new women left and right. The first step to better dating success is meeting more women. Get out there and enjoy the adventure of approaching and meeting more women!
Isn’t it tricky, the psychology of dating? Why do people date? Boost of self-esteem? Looking for a little spice in their rather dull little world? For fun and excitement? Or probably because of boredom? There are good dates, bad dates, blind dates, spur-of-the-moment dates, and dates you’d rather forget for the rest of your life. Whichever they are, the psychology of dating has always been a part of the human existence. It is a need, almost like a requirement to satisfy one’s need to be appreciated.
Dating may sound easy. Well, everybody’s doing it! However, it is not enough to just get dressed, pick a place and hurl yourself into a date. There are certain pointers to consider before the big day.
Aside from proper hygiene, being on time,
First of all, don’t be too excited. As the old saying goes, “Expect the worst and hope for the best.” Not all first dates are amazing. But they sure are memorable. Make sure you don’t expect too much but it also would not hurt to be open to all possibilities.
Be mysterious. Don’t spill your entire autobiography on the first meeting. Mystery gives out a certain positive aura that keeps your date asking for more. And if you’re lucky, you may score a second date. The best way to achieve this is to do most of the listening part. Make your date talk more about herself— her likes, hobbies, her favorite subject. It shows curiosity and flattery. Of course, that doesn’t mean that you will talk less. Just make her feel you’re interested in what she’s saying and she’ll likely do the same for you.
Confidence plays a major role when going out on a date. Nothing beats a confident guy. Being self-assured and up for anything will secure you a one way ticket to an amazing, memorable date ever.
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Do you long to get the spark back in your relationship? Has the zest and desire in your relationship abandoned you? Perhaps you are in a relationship whereby you don’t feel that connection you did when you first started seeing each other? Do you think back fondly to the days when you and your partner wanted to spend every moment together?
If any of this sounds familiar, realise you are not alone and you may be, like many, in need of acquiring some relationship tips to make your partnership stronger. The following five relationship tips and ideas are some suggestions for those who want to strengthen the bond with the person with whom they are dating or married:
Idea 1: Set aside time a little time each day for the two of you.
It’s important to recognise that every relationship needs time when a couple is alone together giving them time to just focus on each other. It could be a chat over a coffee in the morning before work, or it could be just meeting up for an informal lunch – perhaps use your lunchtime to meet up for a walk and a hotdog, and make it an opportunity to catch up with each other. Regardless of how you do it, make sure the focus of time is on the two of you, and you make time to talk and listen properly to each other.
Idea 2: Show a genuine interest in your partner’s interests.
As an example, if your partner really likes watching a certain sport, ask them about the sport and show a genuine interest in that sport – ask about it, and listen to the answers. Even if you don’t know about that specific sport, look it as an opportunity to find out something new. Perhaps your lady likes to go shopping. Take the initiative by suggesting shopping and then devote a few hours, once a month, to go shopping with her. Take an interest in what she looks at, and give sincere comments and feedback that clearly shows you are taking an interest.
Idea 3: Show affection on a daily basis.
One of the most important relationship tips is to maintain a level of affection in your relationship with your partner. Yes, you may have been affectionate in the early days, but the key is to maintain that affection and attention. A hug and a kiss, possibly with a simple ‘off the cuff’ comment like “you look fantastic” are massively valued by the person who is receiving them. It helps both of you make an emotional connection in addition to the physical one.
Idea 4: Organise a special few days away.
Plan a weekend away to somewhere you both haven’t been before – a quaint little town, a lake-side cabin, an old fishing port. Choose a romantic place to stay and dine out in a pretty restaurant in the evening. Check out some live entertainment or perhaps an art gallery or place of local interest …and use all the time to talk to each other. Enjoy each other’s company, spending quality time together, a couple of times a year.
Idea 5: Plan and discuss some joint goals you both have for the future together.
Dreams and goals are what tie partnerships of people together. Perhaps you want to move house, or town; or take a holiday in a far-off destination; perhaps you have the idea of starting a business together – whatever, set some goals together, and focus on making them happen together.
We respect that you have heard some of these ideas and relationship tips before, but consider them again – really take them onboard because often ideas need to be repeated several times to really be absorbed. All these tips can very helpful in creating a stronger, healthier relationship between two people.
With modern cosmetics, creams, surgeries, and super supplements, women don’t look the same as their counterparts a few generations ago. Today there aren’t the restraints on appropriate age or gender behavior like generations of the past had. Many sexual taboos of our grandparents can be witness on prime time TV. We live in a different time, a time where older women are dating younger men.
Some want to believe it is just about the sexual match, though it plays a part in it, there is much more to it than that. Other factors:
There is more opportunity for older women to date younger men in our current culture. Due to previous generations that weren’t accepting of younger men dating older women, many men didn’t bother asking an older woman out. Now that it is commonplace and publicized on TV and in print, older women dating younger men is more common. Not only will younger men ask older women, the women are comfortable and confident enough to make the first move.
Younger women are often working hard and long hours on their career. When the day is done they are caring for their small children. Their free time on the weekends is usually focused on children’s activities. Older women’s children are usually grown or at least old enough to be busy with their own lives, giving mom free time. Younger men usually aren’t the primary caretaker for their children (if they have any children at all). They enjoy the time an older woman has to spend with them. An older woman’s career usually isn’t consuming her time and energy.
Older women dating younger men don’t have to deal with an older man’s need to take care of her; because that was the generation they were raised in. A younger man not only expects a woman to be independent he appreciates it. A younger man can be more supportive of her accomplishments.
Sadly, many people get set in their ways. An older woman appreciates a younger man’s openness. Many older women have raised kids, been married, and have a stable career. They are ready to shift their focus from their responsibilities to themselves and are ready to have some fun. They are often open to trying new things in all areas of a relationship, which is right up most young men’s alley!
Younger men are dating older women because they like the maturity older women have. An older woman tends to be straight forward, knows what she wants, knows what works for her, and isn’t going to waste time playing games. Many younger men don’t want to “raise” a girlfriend. Younger men are happy to teach older women about a new interest instead of having to teach them about the basics of living away from parents for the first time.
There is a certain level of self-confidence that is only achieved through live experiences. This can be really appealing to a man after spending an evening constantly reassuring his date all evening her hair looks fine! Older women dating younger men aren’t dependent on the men. They know how to function in society alone and are with a younger man by choice, not necessity.
Older women dating younger men with common interests can develop into a mutually fulfilling relationship where age truly doesn’t matter.